I had been to the Besant Nagar beach with my friends yesterday night. Saturday night fever was running high. What a wonderful place the beach is, esp when you want to have fun without spending much! :-) We didn't find place to even sit! After searching for a few mins, we finally settled down near the real 'shore'. The strong breeze, wet sand, sound of waves, cloudless dark sky with stars... It was so romantic. OMG!! Wait a second!! It was not the time was romance though!! We were all guys!
We all know what guys talk when there is absolutely no work to do [even otherwise ;-) ].. And our talk was no different! Commenting and rating every girl in the vicinity (nice aunties included). Everyone ragged everyone else, exclude me. Reason?? I was the only one with the dubious distinction of having 'girl-friends'!!! Quite funny isn't it!! It is... And the talk moved on to 'Why don't we have even a single girl contact?' Again, exclude me.. :-) I was laughing to myself when they were quaralling among themselves as to how to make friends with girls.
It is quite simple and not as hard as they feel it is. First reason inhibiting them (my friends) is their 'gethu' attitude that girls should talk to them than they approaching the girls. If you feel like talking to someone, just talk to her! They (girls) are not going to slap you (provided you talk the right thing!). Initially you cannot expect them to react the way you want them to react. Most of the girls are inherently slow to respond to fresh 'friendship requests'. And cut out these crappy, childish topics like "What should I do to be your friend?", "Can we be friends?", "I have never talked to any girl, you are the first girl I am talking to.." etc etc. They are spoilers!
Then how else do I start? Is that the question you are asking me?? Yeah I know.. Its a good question.. A lot depends on the situation. Whether she already knows you, how responsive she is by nature etc... Though not too specific, what I am telling is a generic way you can adopt to REALLY make friends with them and not fool around (Eg: talk normally at the beginning with a hope you can vegetable hit as time goes by! I will kill you if you interpret this that way!). If she is someone you see around often, you can approach her just like that and strike a casual, dry conversation. Don't drag it too long, for she might get bored. At the same time, make sure you let her talk too. It shouldn't be a monologue. Even for someone you don't see (hence obviuosly she also doesn't see you) too frequently, I think this should be fine.
After the initial contact has been made, don't be too 'pushy'. Even if your heart pounds, asking you to talk, calm down.. Take it easy... Appear normal. Have a pleasant smile while you talk. Asking me why you have to do so much for talking to someone?? Its because, it is you who want to talk to her. If she approaches you, you can be yourself from the word 'go'. BTW, where were we, yeah, the 'being pushy' thing... Just keep talking at regular intervals, without expecting too much from them. Since this is a generic set of rules, this applies to 'hard to get started with' girls. It might even be easier than how this actually sounds, if the one you want to talk with is a very easy going person. To be on the safer side, portray just your good traits till you find signs that you have entered their 'circle of trust'. Any girl reading this, this is not cheating by any means, even you don't show the 'real you' to us till you trust us! After she starts responding, start being yourself. But that doesn't mean you can take her for granted and stop doing things you initially did. That defenitely IS cheating, and this is the point where, I feel most fights tend to occur. In the period when you both try to discover the 'real you'. OMG!! Again!! We are talking just about friendship ok!!! Not about love!!!!
To sum it all in just a few sentences, just be yourself, understand that you have to do to others what you expect them to do to you. If you feel you cannot let go of the, "Otha free ya vidu, hair gone" attitude, it is better you stick to guy friends and stop worrying why you don't have any 'friends in the form of girls' (so much specification because the word 'girl friend' can be mis-construed). If you show real care, you will get it in return. After all, friendship isn't to be taken for granted you see! It needs dedication. There is a lot I've missed to address in this post. Shall try to compile them in some future post. Till then, have fun and keep enjoying.
We all know what guys talk when there is absolutely no work to do [even otherwise ;-) ].. And our talk was no different! Commenting and rating every girl in the vicinity (nice aunties included). Everyone ragged everyone else, exclude me. Reason?? I was the only one with the dubious distinction of having 'girl-friends'!!! Quite funny isn't it!! It is... And the talk moved on to 'Why don't we have even a single girl contact?' Again, exclude me.. :-) I was laughing to myself when they were quaralling among themselves as to how to make friends with girls.
It is quite simple and not as hard as they feel it is. First reason inhibiting them (my friends) is their 'gethu' attitude that girls should talk to them than they approaching the girls. If you feel like talking to someone, just talk to her! They (girls) are not going to slap you (provided you talk the right thing!). Initially you cannot expect them to react the way you want them to react. Most of the girls are inherently slow to respond to fresh 'friendship requests'. And cut out these crappy, childish topics like "What should I do to be your friend?", "Can we be friends?", "I have never talked to any girl, you are the first girl I am talking to.." etc etc. They are spoilers!
Then how else do I start? Is that the question you are asking me?? Yeah I know.. Its a good question.. A lot depends on the situation. Whether she already knows you, how responsive she is by nature etc... Though not too specific, what I am telling is a generic way you can adopt to REALLY make friends with them and not fool around (Eg: talk normally at the beginning with a hope you can vegetable hit as time goes by! I will kill you if you interpret this that way!). If she is someone you see around often, you can approach her just like that and strike a casual, dry conversation. Don't drag it too long, for she might get bored. At the same time, make sure you let her talk too. It shouldn't be a monologue. Even for someone you don't see (hence obviuosly she also doesn't see you) too frequently, I think this should be fine.
After the initial contact has been made, don't be too 'pushy'. Even if your heart pounds, asking you to talk, calm down.. Take it easy... Appear normal. Have a pleasant smile while you talk. Asking me why you have to do so much for talking to someone?? Its because, it is you who want to talk to her. If she approaches you, you can be yourself from the word 'go'. BTW, where were we, yeah, the 'being pushy' thing... Just keep talking at regular intervals, without expecting too much from them. Since this is a generic set of rules, this applies to 'hard to get started with' girls. It might even be easier than how this actually sounds, if the one you want to talk with is a very easy going person. To be on the safer side, portray just your good traits till you find signs that you have entered their 'circle of trust'. Any girl reading this, this is not cheating by any means, even you don't show the 'real you' to us till you trust us! After she starts responding, start being yourself. But that doesn't mean you can take her for granted and stop doing things you initially did. That defenitely IS cheating, and this is the point where, I feel most fights tend to occur. In the period when you both try to discover the 'real you'. OMG!! Again!! We are talking just about friendship ok!!! Not about love!!!!
To sum it all in just a few sentences, just be yourself, understand that you have to do to others what you expect them to do to you. If you feel you cannot let go of the, "Otha free ya vidu, hair gone" attitude, it is better you stick to guy friends and stop worrying why you don't have any 'friends in the form of girls' (so much specification because the word 'girl friend' can be mis-construed). If you show real care, you will get it in return. After all, friendship isn't to be taken for granted you see! It needs dedication. There is a lot I've missed to address in this post. Shall try to compile them in some future post. Till then, have fun and keep enjoying.
6 comments:
words frm an expert....hmmmmmmmmm.
but this is not wat we expect. hw to catch girls for vegetable hitting (only).
lol lol! nice post! keep it going!
ya ya i agree with lavan...how to catch girls only for vegetable hitting...;-)
Women - They are the most interesting species on this planet.
Reminds me of one phrase: You can love them, you can hate them; but you just can't live without them.
Coming to ur post, unnoda experience pesuthu... Would take these pointers if at all i feel that 'urge' to speak to some girl.
@lavan n eashwar:
Sheesh, i didnt expect this from u guys. Perverted buggers. :-)
i know abt u ramu. ur the one who understands my pheelings. machan plz next post do some research on wat we said
dheivame!!
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